You may be thinking that recovery is only
for those with alcohol or drug problems. This could not be further from the
truth. Celebrate Recovery mentions “recovery from life’s hurts, hang-ups and
habits.” But what does this mean? A hurt, habit or hang-up is something in you
or your life that hinders your walk with God and others. THESE LIFE PROBLEMS
CAN BE STUMBLING BLOCKS OR STEPPING STONES! If you suffer from one or more of
the effects defined in the following, Celebrate Recovery can offer a solution
of healing for you.
Hurt: to experience physical pain caused by yourself or another; to
feel emotional pain; undergo or experience difficulties or setbacks. The
feeling of being hurt is an emotional reaction to another person’s behavior or
to a disturbing situation -(e.g., abuse, abandonment, codependency, divorce,
relationship issues, etc.)
Hang-up: a psychological or emotional problem or fixation about
something. An issue that causes persistent impediment or source of delay.
Hang-ups are negative mental attitudes that are used to cope with people or
adversity (e.g., anger, depression, fear, unforgiveness, etc.)
Habit: regular repeated behavior pattern. An action or pattern of
behavior that is repeated so often that it becomes typical of somebody,
although he or she may be unaware of it. Addiction, such as an addiction to a
drug, food or some other stimuli that deadens ones feelings. A habit is an
addiction to someone or something (e.g., alcohol dependency, drugs, food, gambling,
sex, shopping, smoking, etc.).
Healing and growth are possible by applying the principles of Celebrate
Recovery to your life!
Partial list of hurts, hang-ups, and habits:
Abandonment Abuse – Physical, Sexual, Emotional Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families Adultery Alcohol Dependency Anger Anxiety Chemical Dependency Codependency Controlling Personality Depression Divorce |
Drug Dependency Eating Disorders Fear Food Addictions Gambling Grief Guilt Same-sex Attraction Insecurity Loss of Relationship Nicotine Dependency Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior |
Overspending People-Pleasing Perfectionism Pornography Rage Rejection Relationship Addiction Sadness Sexual Addiction Shame Workaholism |
Small Group Guidelines
Below are guidelines we implement during Celebrate
Recovery Small Groups.
Keep your sharing focused on your own thoughts and feelings. Please limit
your sharing to 3-5 minutes.
Not your spouse’s, boyfriend’s, or your family members’ hurts, hang-ups and
habits, but your own. Focusing on yourself will benefit your recovery as well
as the ones around you. Stick to “I” or “me” statements, not “you” or “we”
statements. Limit your sharing to 3–5 minutes, so that everyone has an
opportunity to share; and to ensure that one person does not dominate the group
sharing time. Concentrating on others' needs, problems, motives, and behaviors
help us avoid our own issues. It also makes us observers not participants and
can put a lonely distance between ourselves and others.
There will be no cross-talk please. Each person is free to express feelings
without interruption.
Listen respectfully to what others choose to share. We don't want anyone to
feel that they won't be able to finish sharing, that their ideas are not
valued, or that they won't get a chance to speak. This includes asking
questions or other interactions while someone is sharing. If someone's sharing
touches your heart and prompts an idea, you can express what has been brought
to your mind without acknowledging someone else' sharing.
We are here to support one another, not “fix” one another.
Open sharing and step study groups are not designed to be a place where we can
give advice, even if we are professionals. They are designed to allow free,
open talk without being analyzed and given feedback from the group. This keeps
the focus on ourselves and enables us to share personal need, feelings, ideas,
and problems while the Holy Spirit does His healing work in our lives.
Anonymity and confidentiality are basic requirements. What is shared in the
group stays in the group.
This includes telling others what was said or done in the group, gossip
disguised as a prayer request, or acknowledging someone on the street as
knowing them from CR. We don't want to violate trust, safety, or make people
afraid to share risky information. All can attend anonymously with assurance
that your attendance and the information you share will be held in strict
confidence. The only exception is when someone threatens to injure
themselves or others. Please be advised, if anyone threatens to hurt themselves
or others, the Small Group Leader has the responsibility to report it to
Celebrate Recovery Ministry Leader.
Offensive language has no place in a Christ-centered recovery group.
Any offensive language is inappropriate during sharing. This also includes
information that may be too graphic. If at anytime someone starts to get too
graphic in their sharing and you feel uncomfortable, please simply raise your
hand. They will rephrase their sharing. Do the same for others during your
sharing. This encourages respect while not causing someone to stumble with
sharing that is offensive or too graphic. If you are unsure or still need to
share in more detail, save that sharing for your sponsor or accountability
partner.